A Word to “Ex-Gay Leaders”

Some might not like to hear what I am saying, but it needs to be said. No wonder the ex-gay (or “purity” or whatever you call it)-movement has so little impact on society! Look at its “leaders”: They brag with scientific credentials in psychiatry and/or psychology while most have no credentials at all or at best low-level ones. Extremely few really are psychiatrists. Others point out their theological “achievements”. It is not an achievement when you were appointed pastor by some small church – which would not be recognized by 99% of Christianity! Others try to make their own name big, forgetting who really set them free. Then you have those who studied theology or whatever else and now claim to be expert on any given field. Most of their “knowledge” comes from stuff they have read somewhere. Finally you have those who travel across the globe and write books about how to find freedom from same-sex attractions, how to look at them from a Christian and scientific point of view, how to deal with them from a political perspective – you get the picture. The “I-know-everything”-types. However, if you look at their private lives things do not look so shiny – they might be divorced or married a divorced partner, which makes their cohabitation a form of adultry no better than any homosexual act.
So what am I getting at? That we are all liars and hypocrites?
I can’t look into someone’s heart, so it is not up to me to say that. But! we should stick at what we truly know about and not try to beat the world in areas where it is better than we will ever be. God does not need credentials. Your own life story is worth a whole lot more if you present it – and yourself – authentically! Don’t try to brush it up, to make it look better. Don’t push your own agenda, but God’s.
As Doug from Homosexuals Anonymous used to say: “The only thing that keeps us from finding true freedom is the belief that it can be done!”
He sometimes told me how they started off in 1976, having no fancy psychology books, but the Bible. Yet to this day I have not met a man with a stronger faith than Dr. Douglas McIntyre, who passed away in 2015.
He did not put human science down, but he gave credit where credit was due.
Finally, at the end of the day, we need a love bigger than whatever our hearts and bodies held on to so far. A love that can give eternal life.
Rob